What do you do when a man ignores you? Or if you’re wondering “what does it mean when he ignores me then he comes back?” It’s frustrating, it’s infuriating when he doesn’t text back, when a man ignores your calls, when he blocks you.. You’re probably wondering “why is he ignoring me”, what to do if a man ignores you, what do men want, and so many more questions. Whether your man is someone you’re dating or your boyfriend, you’ll want to check out this video, it will give you a huge insight into the male psyche!
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What does it mean when a man ignores you? There are three primary reasons a man ignores a woman and it has to do with the context surrounding this.
Reason #1 – He Needs Space To Think.
This usually happens when you have been involved in a conflict with a man. Let’s say you’ve brought up a problem, you’re not happy with something, you’re arguing with him about something, you may have said something to offend him or maybe you’ve just presented a problem in your relationship.
A lot of men will need some alone time to think. And what they’re really doing is, he’s trying to come up with a solution in his brain to solve the problem. That’s because most men are problem solvers. They don’t like to sit and talk about problems like women do. A lot of times women will go into a conversation to talk about the problem and reach some sort of conclusion through talking about it. Men are not this way, men want to think about the problem, come to a solution and then talk about the solution instead.
If the problem is quite big in scope, it’s actually quite a big problem, then he may be distant for up to a week, a couple of weeks, maybe even a month, because he’s trying to come up with a solution and if it’s a really big problem he may not be able to come up with a solution. It’s scary when a man’s thinking because he’s not
communicating when he’s thinking so that’s what that means. It means he’s
trying to come up with something, come up with a solution.
Reason #2 – It Is Easier For Him To Not Respond.
Maybe you’ve sent him a number of messages, maybe you’re acting a little too needy, a little too demanding, maybe you’ve asked him a challenging question, a confrontational question, maybe you’ve sent him a bunch of text messages or statements that didn’t require an answer and the answer or the response is more implied rather than asked for.
Perhaps you have just sent him a long message but the message is unclear: do you mean you want to break up? Or are you trying to have a go at him?
Sometimes we send these really mixed messages, and it’s not very clear what exactly you’re trying to communicate. If you’re sending a message like that and you read it over and even to you, it sounds a little confusing or if you’re not sure… ask a friend to read it and she or he may be able to tell you if it’s kind of confusing then that may be why he is not responding.
If it’s something that’s challenging and he doesn’t know how to interpret this or he doesn’t know really how to respond he’s going to delay responding. He’ll probably be like…
I’m gonna play video games instead of trying to answer this text message because it’s easier to play video games. That’s something to think about.
He may need more time to form a proper answer especially if he really likes you, then he’s going to be careful with his response.
Reason #3 – He Was Only After Sex
he may be ignoring you is a lot of men will pull away after having sex or after being really close to a woman so let’s say he’s pulled away after you’ve had sex and he’s not responding, he’s ignoring you, that gives you a really good indicator of whether he was just after sex or he actually wanted a relationship.
The length of time he waits before he sends a message after sex is really telling.
What Should You Do When He Ignores You?
First, let me talk about the “ignore him back tactic” that I’m referring to in the title. When you ignore a man you’re going to not text him, not call him and not think about him, that last one is a tricky one.
I know a lot of women have no problems not messaging, not calling, but not thinking… that’s a little trickier.
So I’m going to give you some tips.
The more we think about someone, the more we can talk ourselves into an emotional frenzy and into freaking out or coming up with our own conclusions about what’s going on, and that can actually make the situation worse.
You could… through thinking yourself into a frenzy… end up sending more messages, messages that could really screw up your chances with him.
If he’s not talking to you, he is ignoring you, you don’t want to do any more to piss him off. The thinking part has to stop and my tip for how to stop thinking about him is first…. to not expect him to respond for a good seven days.
If you know he’s going to respond by tomorrow, just have it in your mind he’s not going to respond for seven days. Just do it and then at that point you’re going to turn your mind onto something else.
You’re going to be productive for seven days, let’s imagine you’re going on holidays from this guy, and not think about him for seven days. I’m going to put all my attention onto something else… that could be work… that could be a project, a personal project you have always wanted to do.
Put your phone away, you’re not expecting a message from him, you don’t care if he messages you because you’re going to fully get into this task.
Use that time to be productive instead of sitting there thinking up the worst-case scenarios, driving yourself insane, and end up saying something you will regret.
Now let me know ladies, in the comment section below, what was the longest time frame you have gone where you have ignored a guy. What’s the longest time you have ignored a guy for? Let me know that in the comments below!
If he just wanted sex and you want a relationship feel free ladies to ignore him indefinitely. You will know if a guy just wants sex because directly after he has sex with you he either doesn’t message you for a couple of days after, which is always a sign, he was just after the sex, he doesn’t want a relationship or he does message you but it’s just about the sex, it’s just about how amazing the sex was and that was it then you know that was all he was after, that’s all he’s thinking about and that’s all he will want next time.
If you are in a relationship and he comes back from pulling away, comes back from being a bit distant, do not ignore him. Don’t play that game. Don’t play that you’re going to ignore me, I’m going to ignore you back. Don’t do that. That is very immature, very childish and that is not how to adults have a proper relationship.
When he comes back ideally you want to be open to him and listen to him. You presented him with a question or a problem or something and now you want to hear what he has come up with and if he came up with something you didn’t like then it’s negotiation time.
At this point you communicate what you think, what you want, how you feel and then you pass the ball to him, ask him how he thinks, what he wants, how he feels and it’s going back and forth back and forth and communicating what you both want and try to come to some kind of resolution.
Don’t just ignore the issue. If he comes back, pretending like nothing’s wrong, do not ignore it.
Go back to the initial problem that you were talking about. Don’t just let it slide because you brought it up for a reason. Play that scenario out to the end.
If you were dating and you’re the one acting needy, acting a bit too clingy or desperate. You may want to explain to him why it’s not okay for him to just suddenly disappear and ignore you.
Some guys may make it sound like well you acted needy, so that’s why I acted this way. They make it sound like that’s completely justified. Wrong! You’re not going to accept a man who will not communicate with you, he has to communicate, it’s not okay for him to just disappear.
You have no relationship if he doesn’t communicate with you.
Now you know what to do if a man is ignoring you and how to ignore him back to get the results you want and what you should do instead, you may be wondering… I’m sick of these games, how do I genuinely and authentically get a man to fall in love with me, madly in love with me and stay in love with me?
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